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Didn’t you know?

By Alberta Sequeira

PROMPT — Who am I today?

Didn’t you know the signs or did you ignore them? Did you put love over reality facing you?

You put your dreams of a happy marriage with children, a home, and having a wonderful husband in front of deciding with your heart and not your mind that it felt wrong.

Didn’t you know that it was not normal with his drinking? What did you have in common besides being happy when you were with him? Didn’t you notice you let go of your friends and become isolated?

Walking down the aisle to marry was not as thrilling and exciting as you expected. The smile on his face and glow in his eyes was not there. But you were married.

The years made you an enabler making your two daughters live in confusion, fear, and abuse. Allowing his actions brought him deeper into his addiction. Fourteen years too late, leaving scares on everyone, you divorced. You kept the blinders on for too long.

After losing your husband and one daughter from their alcohol and drug addiction, you became an author and motivational speaker about substance abuse. It was not something in your plans when you were younger. 

You entered a dark world. The lights come on when you reach out to other addicts. Maybe, just maybe, your words will help people fighting the same disease giving them hope for recovery.

Didn’t you know it was too late for your loved ones? Now, I have the knowledge and education on this demon that I wished I had when I was younger.


Alberta Sequeira is from North Dartmouth, MA, and is a three-time nominated award-winning Author and Awareness Coach on Alcohol and Drug Abuse after losing her husband, Richard Lopes, and daughter, Lori Cahill of North Dighton, Massachusetts to their alcohol addiction. She is a co-founder to Authors Without Borders and a director, producer, and co-host to the NBTV-95 Cable Show out of New Bedford, MA. Her published memoirs Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, and its sequel Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism are available in paperback and Kindle. Alberta has appeared on numerous cable TV and radio shows.


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